The 5:1 Rule

The 5:1 rule

One of the simplest ways to motivate and energise others is acknowledgment. And yet, it is so rare. When was the last time someone patted you on the back and acknowledged you for something you had done? For that matter, when was the last time you did the same for someone else?

The 5:1 rule states that for every single constructive piece of criticism we receive, we need FIVE pieces of acknowledgement for our success in order to feel motivated and appreciated.

What this means in practice:
-  Be observant -Actively look for opportunities to praise others.
-  Be immediate - Praise someone AT THE TIME you notice a success (not simply as a prelude to telling them some bad news). "Say it when you see it".
-  Be specific. We generally go into huge detail in our criticisms. Be as detailed with your praise.
-  Be genuine. Find SOMETHING positive to say that you really believe.
-  Be consistent - everyone deserves the same treatment. Make it part of your role as a friend/leader/parent/partner, to acknowledge those around you.

What if YOU'RE the one that needs more acknowledgement?
Sometimes in order to get what we need from others we have to ask. Identify those people at work and outside who can effortlessly acknowledge you and tell them what you need.

Ideas:
-  Perhaps you can't ask your boss directly, but maybe other people on your team can provide this kind of feedback…and you can do the same for them.
-  Perhaps you have friends who could say what they appreciate about you more often.

And don't forget, what you put out there you receive back. When you start to acknowledge others, you'll be teaching them how to do the same for you.